Single people aren't having good sex like committed couples, including those married. At least that's what a recent sex survey poll found.
People in relationships, according to a 'Primetime Live' survey, are more sexually satisfied than those who are single. The study found that 97 percent of Americans in married or committed relationships are satisfied with their sex life. It also found that 75 percent of those surveyed found marriage more enjoyable than dating.
Could this be true? A few experts polled agreed, and here are some of the reasons why.
Rev. Dr. Sheron Patterson, senior pastor of St. Paul United Methodist Church in Dallas, says that trust and commitment are foundational for good sex. Women, she observes, crave security and commitment in sexual relationships. That's often found in 'committed' relationships.
'The primary mistake single people make is having sex seeking commitment and trust,' explains Patterson. 'They are actually auditioning to get the person. When you audition, you're a bit nervous and unsure because you aren't sure if you're liked. Once you have the role [commitment], you feel secure and the anxiety level decreases:'
Continues Patterson, 'You're in bondage auditioning and trying to please. Then afterwards there is the guilt they feel religiously. Those two things keep you from being free'
Patterson, who founded The Love Clinic nine years ago and authored a book by the same title, is encouraging people to move toward marriage through her 'Mission Get Married' project. Married for 20 years herself, Patterson believes that couples who marry feel a burden lifted in the bedroom.
'Physically and spiritually there is a transition going from illegal sex (premarital) to legal sex (marriage),' she says. 'Marital sex is better because you set aside anxiety and feelings of insecurity. The Bible teaches that sex outside of marriage is sin. When you're engaged in illegal sex, you feel guilt and separation from God and it causes you not to enjoy it as much. When you get into legal sex, you're free to enjoy yourself. Single sisters worry about their reputation and being considered a 'slut.' Society rears men to be sexually active. They are called a 'player' or 'stud.' Women are called 'whores.''
Age might also play a pivot